Dear Parents of 12 Year Olds
Hey there! Welcome to my blog! First things first, I guess it's best to get the idea that this is anything like what I normally write out of your head. I wouldn't and don't normally write things like this but I felt that it was needed. This is the perspective of a 12 year olds from a 12 year old. Yep, that's how old I am. That's the most information you're going to know about me though.
So, I decided to write this letter after seeing so many posts dedicated to writing letters from parents to parents. That's truly not what you need though. I can't say for certain that any of this applies to your daughter. It probably won't apply to your son since I'm a girl so yeah.... sorry if I confused you. Anyway, let's get this show on the road!
Dear Parents/Guardians,
Kids are confusing. Girls are even more confusing and it only gets worse as we get older. That doesn't matter though since you're out parents and you already know that. Most likely. Anyway, before anything else I want to let you know that we love you. Even when we're screaming we hate you, there is some part of us (no matter how small) that denies that claim so strongly, it hurts. It reminds us of how you've always been there for us in one way or another and that we are lucky to have you as parents. That is something that we can't change and most of us will never ever ever be able to change that part of us.
Next issue on the plate: our attitude. This is something that I personally don't feel is as big an issue as you choose to make it. If your friend were to be rude to you, would you give them a lecture on rudeness when they already know what they did was rude? No. It would be "awkward" and "rude" of you to bring it up. But when its your child, all of the sudden is totally okay for you to act like we don't know anything about rudeness at all. One more thing that I feel parents need to know. Come a little closer in case there is close minded people in the room who aren't open to suggestions. Ok, now that you're good and close................... NOT EVERY LITTLE THING THAT COMES OUT OF MY MOUTH IS BACK TALK OR ATTITUDE!!! Just because you don't agree with what I'm saying, doesn't mean I'm giving attitude or talking back at all. It just means I have an opinion which is perfectly fine last time I checked. Everyone has one after all and you can't expect me to have the same one as you. Ever. We are two different people with two different views of the world. It doesn't matter how different the fact is that they are different to an extent.
Moving on, we have moodswings. They are sometimes subtle but more often than not, they're like a whirlwind of emotions raining down on you out of nowhere. We can be happy one minute and sobbing the next. Or yelling and shouting and screaming. It doesn't have to be with emotions specifically either. Sometimes we love our clothes one day and want to burn them until they don't exist anymore the next. Sometimes our friends are long time rivals and others they are life-long besties. We are humans who just happen to be going through a really tough time in our life where everything is changing faster than we can comprehend including our emotions.
Last but not least by far, you don't know what it's like. You may know what it's like to have been a kid/pretween/teenager when you were those things. You don't know what its like to be one of those things today. There are so many pressures on us that weren't on you and it can be really difficult to deal with them all. Sometimes you may feel like we ignore all advice. Here's a tiny secret though: We listen to it and follow it to the best of our ability. Sure, sometimes we think that it is totally BS but most of the time, we do listen. We do have ears and we do use them. Can you please just try to be a little less "pushy"? That's not exactly what you are but that's the best word I can find for it. We are trying our absolute best to be what you believe we can be while having fun and not failing ever single subject at school. Just give us some time to understand what's going on with us, kay? Promise it will all be worth it in the end.
Love,
Me!
So, I decided to write this letter after seeing so many posts dedicated to writing letters from parents to parents. That's truly not what you need though. I can't say for certain that any of this applies to your daughter. It probably won't apply to your son since I'm a girl so yeah.... sorry if I confused you. Anyway, let's get this show on the road!
Dear Parents/Guardians,
Kids are confusing. Girls are even more confusing and it only gets worse as we get older. That doesn't matter though since you're out parents and you already know that. Most likely. Anyway, before anything else I want to let you know that we love you. Even when we're screaming we hate you, there is some part of us (no matter how small) that denies that claim so strongly, it hurts. It reminds us of how you've always been there for us in one way or another and that we are lucky to have you as parents. That is something that we can't change and most of us will never ever ever be able to change that part of us.
Next issue on the plate: our attitude. This is something that I personally don't feel is as big an issue as you choose to make it. If your friend were to be rude to you, would you give them a lecture on rudeness when they already know what they did was rude? No. It would be "awkward" and "rude" of you to bring it up. But when its your child, all of the sudden is totally okay for you to act like we don't know anything about rudeness at all. One more thing that I feel parents need to know. Come a little closer in case there is close minded people in the room who aren't open to suggestions. Ok, now that you're good and close................... NOT EVERY LITTLE THING THAT COMES OUT OF MY MOUTH IS BACK TALK OR ATTITUDE!!! Just because you don't agree with what I'm saying, doesn't mean I'm giving attitude or talking back at all. It just means I have an opinion which is perfectly fine last time I checked. Everyone has one after all and you can't expect me to have the same one as you. Ever. We are two different people with two different views of the world. It doesn't matter how different the fact is that they are different to an extent.
Moving on, we have moodswings. They are sometimes subtle but more often than not, they're like a whirlwind of emotions raining down on you out of nowhere. We can be happy one minute and sobbing the next. Or yelling and shouting and screaming. It doesn't have to be with emotions specifically either. Sometimes we love our clothes one day and want to burn them until they don't exist anymore the next. Sometimes our friends are long time rivals and others they are life-long besties. We are humans who just happen to be going through a really tough time in our life where everything is changing faster than we can comprehend including our emotions.
Last but not least by far, you don't know what it's like. You may know what it's like to have been a kid/pretween/teenager when you were those things. You don't know what its like to be one of those things today. There are so many pressures on us that weren't on you and it can be really difficult to deal with them all. Sometimes you may feel like we ignore all advice. Here's a tiny secret though: We listen to it and follow it to the best of our ability. Sure, sometimes we think that it is totally BS but most of the time, we do listen. We do have ears and we do use them. Can you please just try to be a little less "pushy"? That's not exactly what you are but that's the best word I can find for it. We are trying our absolute best to be what you believe we can be while having fun and not failing ever single subject at school. Just give us some time to understand what's going on with us, kay? Promise it will all be worth it in the end.
Love,
Me!
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